Peace and Quiet

I'm at odds with myself. I am at a point where I am emotionally un-entangled with any sort of romance. It's a state that I would like to maintain. It feels pretty relaxing. Emotional peace and quiet. This conflicts with my desire for sexual intimacy. I've been given the advice to masturbate more and while that's fine for a standard release it's not what I'm craving. It's not the wham bam repeat steps one and two 'til orgasm that I miss. It's the contact. It's soft skin beneath my finger tips, lips meeting, my hand in their hair, their hand on my waist, the muttered words and sounds exchanged. The closeness of one human being to another and the physical dialogue of mutual desire. Now for me to truly enjoy this I have to like someone. Liking someone and having sex with them usually leads to really liking them and in some cases falling in love, then comes the emotional entanglement. I keep meeting people that have the problem of never liking anyone enough to fall in love. My problem is falling in love too easily. Why is this a bad thing? Well it's not on the surface it's just that the people to whom I'm drawn are not okay with being in love, especially with me. My falling in love with them causes the interaction to fall apart. Then I become abject. No fun. I like the way it feels to not be in love. I would like to remain in this current state of romantic independence. I just need the apathy to spread to my physical desire or I need to figure out how to keep the physical and the emotional separate if that's even possible.